Heartbreak

Have you ever had your heart broken by somebody you love? I have. Not once, not twice, but three times. I have had my heart broken three times!  Hehehe… Yeah I know.. I have, or rather had, a BIG heart! 

It is often said you only suffer heartbreak once in your lifetime, but here I am, living proof that it can happen more than once.

I believe that there are various levels of heartbreak intensity. There is your normal heartbreak where you feel a reasonable degree of sadness but quickly get over it and get on with your life. Then there is The Mother of All Heartbreak! This is the one that makes you feel like you are gonna die from the pain. I suffered the latter. Yes, one two three times!  How the hell? Lol!

Looking back now, I have learned from my mistakes. You are not ready to love somebody until you learn to love yourself. By all means, Love, but first and foremost, remember to first love and totally appreciate who you are as an individual. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle to yourself. Be patient with yourself.

Why do some people commit suicide over failed relationships? Well, that’s because they feel like their lives are over after the object of their desire has hurt them or left them. It’s because they feel like they will not be able to live without that particular person. The truth is, you will live, just like you existed before that person came into their life.  It is not until we fully realise our value and worth as individuals that we learn to handle heartbreak differently and treat it as a learning curve, and not like it's the end of the world!

If a relationship fails, you have to accept that it has failed and move on with your life. No obsessing, no fantasizing about what might have been. Just get on with your life.             And if you don’t know how to do it, then ask me! Hehehe…