RANDOMS

 I rarely plan my article topics in advance.  Normally, I simply pick up my pen, open my journal, gaze into the ceiling for a few minutes and then go with whatever I am thinking, feeling or reminiscing about at that very moment.  And that becomes my article for the week.

It is now 23h00, and I am sitting on my bed staring at the wall without the foggiest clue of what to write about. It is almost as though there is something blocking my flow. Yeah, my mind is blank tonight, which is very rare,might I hasten to add.  Ah well, I think it is safe to say that I have been hit by a temporary bout of BLOGGERS BLOCK.

Anyway, let’s keep going shall we?   

Because we are suffering from Bloggers Block today, allow me to tell you a little about myself;

 

35 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT RICA:-

1)      Astrological sign is Scorpio

 

2)      I am a mother to two wonderful children, my 16 year old son Jaden and my 12 year old daughter, Kiara

 

3)      My children are my motivation in life

 

4)      I have been married. Traditional marriage, at that! How I consented as I am pro civil rites, is a topic for another day

 

5)   I fail to conform to the 'norms' of society

 

6)      You can bet your sweet ass, I WILL be married again and it will last for as long as I live.. In an elegant affair, far far away from Cattle Kraals

 

7)      I believe in miracles and can attest to a few

 

8)      I was attacked and bitten by dogs when I was a kid, hence the scar on my lower lip and left leg

 

9)      I resent and avoid confrontation at all costs

 

10)   I write more than I speak. I am a good listener though

 

11)   I love, love, love to laugh

 

12)   I was crowned Miss Manzini at the age of 19, in the year 1999

 

13)   I love cars. Fast cars

 

14)   I love fine perfume, wine, whiskey, the sound my phone makes when a direct depost hits my account. I love money,  and I lurrrrv food. Good food

 

15)   I love music and particularly enjoy old school Kwaito and House music, which people say is unlike me, whatever that means

 

16)   I hate hypocrites

 

17)   In a guy, I am attracted to dark chocolate skin, someone well groomed and confident. A mature person and a hard worker. I have grown to detest lazy guys with no vision. That said, one brother at a time. LOL!

 

18)   … and I think sex is overrated. Not!

 

19)   I am a great cook but cannot bake to save my life

 

20)   I think I am the friendliest and most down to earth person you will ever meet

 

21)   ….. but I hold grudges.

 

22)   I sang in the choir when I was a teenager and was a devoted member of the church

 

23)   … until a tall light skinned fellow member told me he had a vision that I was to become his wife

 

24)   I know I will become a Millionaire in the not so distant future.

 

25)   I quit my job as a Banker in 2011, with absolutely no back- up plan

 

26)   … So you may deduce that I am very emotional and act on impulse, sometimes to my own detriment

 

27)   I am terrible at following diets

 

28)   I love red lipstick

 

29)   I get along very well with my sisters, they would cross the ocean for me and I would do the same

 

30)   I would love to travel the world. Wait, I WILL travel the world

 

31)   I have a host of phobias which include but are not limited to; Heights, grasshoppers, frogs, spiders, snakes, millipedes, centipedes, ticks, fleas and being broke

 

32)   I either love you or I don’t. There is no in between

 

33)   On Sundays, chances that I am suffering from a hangover are very high

 

34)   I am not very fond of Cops (traffic cops to be precise) 

 

35)   Over and above, I am an optimist, I aspire to greatness and I believe in God.

 

 

 

 

EXES MUST FALL

Men are very interesting creatures.

I mean, you commit yourself to someone wholeheartedly, love, respect and appreciate them. And guess what?.. they take you for granted and play you like a violin.

At the time, you are so caught up in your feelings for this person and the fantasy you have created in your head, of a happily ever after. You believe that things will work out eventually. You put in all your effort towards the relationship. But the truth is, you can never force anyone into valuing or appreciating you.

It has become crystal clear that this love is not being reciprocated.  He is less bothered about you and does not care whether you are coming or going. He is too busy for you.

You on the other hand are hell bent at trying to show him how much you care. Trying, but trying a tad too much.

You sit around hoping that he will call, hoping that he will text, hoping that he will make time for you, hoping he will talk to you . Hoping, but hoping too hard!

I am reminded of a sermon by the renown, Pastor T.D. Jakes, with a very sensible quote; “..Stop watering things that were never meant to grow in your life.  No matter how much you water concrete, you can never grow a garden”. Yet there you are, watering concrete and hoping to grow a garden. Mission Impossible!

Eventually, and after you have thoroughly exhausted all your efforts and are all cried out, you make a conscious decision to let go and move on with your life. You start dating other males and ‘exploring other avenues’.  Oh, I have purposely bolded and underlined “exploring other avenues”. Avenues in this case being ………. Hahahaha, Go figure! But yeah… other, bigger and better avenues! And you are pleased to discover that Home was never like this! You soon discover that there are better people out there, better in character, better in personality. Wayyyyy better than your Ex(es).

Months pass, years even! You totally forget about that male who did you wrong. You are in a very good space, most importantly, you are HAPPY! J

One fine day, out of the blue, you receive a call from a strange number (yeah, of course you deleted his number), and guess who is on the line? Yup, If it isn’t ‘Mr. Too Damn Good”!! His once arrogant tone of voice, now soft and meek as an angel. He is calling to check how you have been.

The calls keep coming, the texts start pouring in, and next thing this male is blowing up your phone!

He wants to take you out on a date. He wants to spend time with you. He wants to hang out with your family. Oh, he also wants to marry you. Ncooooh…..Hahahaha! Yes, all the things you probably wished for and hoped for while you guys were still together, only, a little too late… A little, too late!

You sit back and recall the past and all the pain you went through. You remember all those nights you cried yourself to sleep. You remember all his escapades and shenanigans and you feel angry all over again.

So, here is this male, talking about “ I love you”, “I am sorry”, “Please give us another chance”. Aaah aaah….. Talk to the hand! Bro, that ship sailed!

Besides, why would I want to interfere with KARMA’s work in your life?

So, come now dude, KNEES TO CHEST, KNEES TO CHEST!! That’s RIGHT!  Do some STEPPING!!

You know, I am sitting here thinking to myself right now, why is it that, for some strange reason, I always have ‘come backs’ with these people of the past?  These earthlings crop up and pop up out of nowhere, and they hope to find, yours truly, doing what exactly? Sitting around and idling? How? Pray tell….. *shaking my head*

Like, go find another pond!

*flicks hair, whistles, struts off*

Till next week, much love and God bless.

THE GREEN EYED MONSTER

We are a beautiful Nation with an awesome culture. We even have a good reputation, owing to our peaceful and friendly nature.

However, there is a monster out there that threatens to destroy our people. It dwells deep inside the souls of many a fellow citizen. It is called JEALOUSY.

It starts off with something simple. For instance, your neighbour attains something you do not have or cannot afford. The minute there is any prospect of that particular person being better than you, achieving more than you, on any level whatsoever, your heart begins to fill with envy. Envy fast becomes jealousy, and ultimately turns into cold hatred.

We do not want to see our fellow brothers and sisters progress in life or prosper. On the other hand, we have become so affixed in our comfort zones and have settled for a mediocre life. An average job and salary. An average house and lifestyle. We are lacking in ambition and creativity. We have no dreams or drive, so we settle!

However, there are some people out there who reach for their dreams. They go out there and they make things happen. They refuse to conform to any standard that is less than the best. They work hard. They keep trying even after failing a couple of times. They lose sleep and face opposition often times, but they keep going. They keep working on themselves and their lives. These are the people who start new businesses. These are the people who realize the importance of a good education and go back to school. These are the people who lend a helping hand in developing their communities. Their hard work begins to pay off. Their wealth increases. They got promoted to higher positions in the workplace. Their homes improve. Basically, they progress. Which is what life is all about, GROWING!

Our fellow people establish Businesses, which by the way, boost our very own economy and create employment opportunities for our citizens, and yet we stop at nothing in trying to pull them down. Why so much envy? Why all the jealousy? Can you imagine how much progress and development we can achieve if only we could learn to celebrate and motivate one another?

We watch with envy and begin to question why they seem to have all the luck. We smile in their faces but the minute they turn their backs, we speak foul of them. We draw our daggers, and await the slightest opportunity to plunge it into their unsuspecting backs.

Even the Bible warns against a jealous heart in James 3:14-16. We need to pray to God to deliver us envy and jealousy.

It is time to stop hating. Stop gossiping. Stop concocting lies. Stop plotting. Stop the jealousy! Let us stand together, encourage, support, and help each other grow!

Remember, jealously does not only make you nasty, it also stands in the way of your own happiness and blocks your very own blessings!

Till next week, much love and God Bless!!

V-Day

 With just a few days left before Valentine’s day which falls on the 14^th February, lovers across the Globe are planning on how they are going to go about spoiling and treating their significant others, as a way to remind them how special they are.

For as long as I can remember, Valentine’s Day has always been one of those days that I look forward to with great anticipation. It has always evoked a sense of excitement. I have to admit, I am a hopeless romantic!

Whilst the true origin of how this day came about is quite sketchy & details murky, all we are certain about is St Valentine was a Roman Priest who was beheaded on 14^th February after it was discovered that he was secretly marrying Christian couples, which was prohibited by the Emperor Claudius II, many centuries ago. Not so romantic hey?

The ladies will agree with me that guys have a tendency of playing dumb when it comes to spoiling them on this day. They argue that they see no reason to focus on ‘showing’ love on this day when in fact love is shared every day. Yeah right! Stingy fellas, we see right through you! Others even go to the extent of starting a fight with their woman, just so they are not obligated to spend any money on Valentine’s Day. Mara why gents? Just spoil your woman; it is the right thing to do! Hehehe…

For someone who feels so passionately about this beautiful celebration, you would think I live my fairytale every February 14^th. But how about if I were to tell you that nothing special has happened to me on Valentine’s Day? Nothing, nada, zilch, zero! In all my years as a female adult citizen, I am yet to experience being wined, dined and showered with gifts. Who knows, this might just be my year. I may just receive a bunch of red roses, or a little mug. Hahahahaha!

I have decided to share a couple of Valentine’s Day ideas for the guys… So now you have no excuse guys, Dr. Love aka ‘Rica has got your back!

Any one of these will do just fine:                                                                                                                                       

1) Make reservations for candle light dinner at a restaurant you know she will love.      

2) Get a florist to deliver a bunch of red roses at her workplace.                                                                                      

3) Buy her a selection of fine chocolate                                                                                                                               

 4) Buy take outs and take a long drive with her and play a fine selection of love songs along the way.      

5) Buy her a bottle of her favourite perfume.                                                                                                                   

6) Cook dinner for her                                                                                                                                                                

7) A manicure or pedicure                                                                                                                                                               

8) Take her to the movies (But only if you still a teen, jeez!)                                                                               

9) Buy her affine bottle of champagne and a musical cd.                                                                                                             

10) Gas up her car and order her over, where upon entering the house she will find rose petals leading to the bedroom and your fine self-clad only in an apron, whilst dinner simmers.

Okay, you’re welcome and you can thank me later! So there you have it, make your pick!

And for the brothers who won’t heed my advice, good luck! Please don’t come crying to moi! Muhahahaha!

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone, and for those who will be getting neither the V nor the D, Happy ‘Alentines ‘Ay!!

Much love and God bless, till next week!!