THE “BAE” CHRONICLES

Have you ever paid your significant other a little surprise visit at his/her place? Now, hands up if you are the one who turned out surprised…. That’s right!

When you are in a relationship, there comes a point where you feel like popping in at Bae’s place, unannounced, you know…  just to check up on them.  Only, these unannounced pop ins could turn rather nasty because, let’s face it, these dudes aint loyal. Ok, I don’t want to sound sexist, guys have also experienced their fair share of interesting finds during spot checks aka surprise visits to Bae. So it’s not even an issue of gender but of individual morals and values.

Gone are the days where relationships were taken seriously and monogamy was held in high esteem. Nowadays, it has almost become perfectly normal and ‘acceptable’ for guys to have “Side Chicks” and ladies to have, … err, pardon me, I forget the term! 

Cheating  has almost become ‘acceptable’.  Yes, in this day and age of escalating HIV/AIDS statistics.  Quite disturbing hey? Do monogamous relationships still exist? Very few me thinks. Very few…  Society has become so materialistic, people have become so opportunistic and it is almost like the demon of lust has been poured upon the earth in great volumes.  Things are so bad that, many good friendships have ended in disaster, after a greedy and lustful partner has crossed the line and become sexually involved with their lover’s best friend! Shocking? Nope, not anymore..   Moral decay has taken centre stage these day and people are hardly surprised when such things happen. 

I am taken back to a few personal experiences of my own with my one, two, three, wait a minute, Two! Experiences with two Exes of mine.  I have two Exes. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!   

Let’s start with who we shall call Ex No. 1; 

Ex No. 1 was the type of fella who would rock up at my place unannounced, as and when it pleased him. I had no problem with his surprise appearances. I mean, he was Bae, and Bae need not apply to visit Bae, right? And so he would appear (and disappear) at will. I was pretty young at the time and very naïve, might I add.  One mid morning after I had failed to reach him on his mobile phone, I decided to pay him a little visit at his flat.   As I neared his door I picked up a lovely garlic infused whiff coming from his kitchen window.   I got to the door and knocked gently, ready to flash a bright smile at him when he opened the door. Lo and Behold, a strange tall female opened the door! I told her who I was looking for and she simply stepped away from the door, allowing me to walk in. I stepped into the kitchen, and there he was, none other than Ex No. 1, standing by the stove, frying meat!  Frying meat the bugger! How nice was that. He had never even once so much as fried me an egg!  Being the young and silly girl that I was, I decided to get into a cat fight with the mystery lady. Silly, silly Rica!! I mean, what did she have to do with me finding her at my meat frying guy’s place? She obviously knew nothing about me.  Needless to say, I was Tree Hugging that afternoon, mending a broken heart.

And then there was Ex No. 2 ;

It is often said that you shouldn’t bad mouth your Ex, but please allow me to just say Ex No. 2 was the King of Scumbags (Burn, burn, burn!!*evil chuckle*). LOL, No seriously, there’s no better word to describe the dude! How I allowed him to string me along, will forever remain a mystery. Hehehehe.. He had Casanova written all over his face but Noooooo, I wouldn’t see reason.  Let me spare you the details and just say, he was full of ‘surprises’ and I had to send him packing, much to my relief!

Now, let’s deliberate on this question;  do you ever visit your significant other without prior arranging/announcing? Is it right, Is it wrong? Is it good, is it bad?  You be the judge!

Personally, I resolved (experience taught me actually) never to show up at my dude’s place  uninvited. There is a saying that goes ; “Let Sleeping Dogs Lie”, which basically means, when knowing something will lead to unhappiness, it is best not to know it at all.  Don’t pry, don’t search, and don’t appear! Just don’t!  Oh, that goes for cellphone snooping too! Don’t  go through your partner’s phone messages, emails or Facebook, because chances are, you will find what you are looking for!!  Now, who is to blame here? No prizes for guessing!

Believe me, It’s a dog eat dog world out there!

Let sleeping dogs lie, BUT keep yourself protected, if you know what I mean!!

As you were!